Dear ShakeUp Team,
I feel so insecure writing this — but I am a big girl. I’ve been big most of my life, and most recently lost about 20 pounds. I am confident writing this — that I look the best that I’ve ever looked, and I’m even feeling the best that I’ve ever felt. My boyfriend — a prankster and someone who is never light with the jokes is constantly talking about fat people. It hurts to hear it sometimes …because I can classify as fat too. He says, his jokes aren’t meant to hurt me and that I’m just ‘thick’ and insecure. He continues on about heavy people, how they are unhealthy and usually once he gets started, he won’t stop.
Is there anyway to get him to understand that this hurts me too? Because I identify? I don’t want to leave.. but this is something I deal with week in and week out.